My must have playlist

I, crazy Pawar, take you, the playlist, to be my lawfully non wedded partner, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.

Ok this is not a joke. I utterly and completely love these songs and they are my all time partners in life. These are just like how real partners are. You would not feel like talking to them everyday but at the same time you want them with you all the time. The moment someone praises them you are like wow to them and if they go little far like claiming them then ummm excuse me!

1) Jesus don't want me for a Sunbeam- Nirvana

The scene - Bangalore drizzling night, pg room, one big bed, dark room, playlist on with the song, Kurt cobain poster on wall and a girl lying on bed and staring at starts from the wide window, sky completely dark,  dull moon and sky with stars. Oops did I almost forgot- Kurt Cobain's mesmerizing voice.

Jesus, don't want me for a sunbeam
Sunbeams are never made like me 

Don't expect me to cry,
For all the reasons you had to die
Don't ever ask your love of me

Don't expect me to cry
Don't expect me to lie
Don't expect me to die for me

2) Hey You - Pink Floyd

Well well, I specifically liked this song of Pink Floyd better than all other songs mainly due to the lyrics. And how can I forget the shrieking voice and bold rhythm.

Hey you out there on your own 
Sitting naked by the phone 
Would you touch me? 
Hey you with you ear against the wall 
Waiting for someone to call out 
Would you touch me? 
Hey you, would you help me to carry the stone? 
Open your heart, I'm coming home. 

But it was only fantasy. 
The wall was too high, 
As you can see. 
No matter how he tried, 
He could not break free. 
And the worms ate into his brain.

3) Rolling in the deep- Adele

Adele Adele Adele, I just love you. No matter how upset I am I can listen to her and feel good about myself and mylife. She is the bomb.

Baby, I have no story to be told
But I've heard one on you
And I'm gonna make your head burn
Think of me in the depths of your despair
Make a home down there
As mine sure won't be shared

The scars of your love remind me of us
They keep me thinking that we almost had it all
The scars of your love, they leave me breathless
I can't help feeling
We could have had it all
Rolling in the deep
You had my heart inside of your hand
And you played it, to the beat
We could have had it all
Rolling in the deep
You had my heart inside of your hand
But you played it, with a beating

4) Where did you sleep last night - Nirvana

I remember a time when Mr Shukla was humming this song imperfectly but cutely in office and I joined the humming thinking, oh he praises my lover (kurt) but Mr Shukla had an audacity to tell me that "Hah, only memorized the first line....dodo did you listen to the songs everrrrr in your life" and I was like "dah.. do you even know whom you are talking to, The Biggest Kurt Cobain Fan In Amazon, the one who has all the information ever printed about him on line, who also keeps his suicide note with her and is in love with him even after his death. "Well ofcourse all the conversation was in my head but hey guess what I still remember that you pissed me of that day. LOL.. No offense though shuklaJi. I know you too love him but don't claim him. HE IS MINE. OK.

My girl, my girl, don't lie to me
Tell me where did you sleep last night

In the pines, in the pines
Where the sun don't ever shine
I would shiver the whole night through

My girl, my girl, where will you go
I'm going where the cold wind blows

In the pines, in the pines
Where the sun don't ever shine
I would shiver the whole night through

Her husband, was a hard working man
Just about a mile from here
His head was found in a driving wheel
But his body never was found

5. Death and all his friends - Coldplay

Ofcourse my Lover is and will always be Nirvana but Coldplay and Pink Floyd have to be an extra marital affair. some how cant choose who is above who and I am not writing in a sexual way but actually in a sequential way. hahahaha. DORK.

All winter we got carried away
Over on the rooftops, let's get married
All summer we just hurried
So come over, just be patient and don't worry
So come over, just be patient and don't worry

So come over, just be patient and don't worry
And don't worry

Try
Try

Try
Try

No, I don't want to battle from beginning to end
I don't want to cycle of recycled revenge
I don't want to follow death and all of his friends

6. Don't cry- Guns and Roses

I am not an ardent fan of guns and roses but that does not mean I dont have hots for slash.But whatever the reason is I utterly love this and sweet child o mine.

Give me a whisper
And give me a sigh
Give me a kiss before you
tell me goodbye
Don't you take it so hard now
And please don't take it so bad
I'll still be thinkin' of you
And the times we had...baby

And don't you cry tonight
Don't you cry tonight
Don't you cry tonight
There's a heaven above you baby
And don't you cry tonight

And please remember that I never lied
And please remember
how I felt inside now honey
You gotta make it your own way
But you'll be alright now sugar
You'll feel better tomorrow
Come the morning light now baby

7. Nothing else matters- Metallica

Do I need to mention why on earth someone would like this song. you gotta be kidding me love.

So close no matter how far
Couldn't be much more from the heart
Forever trusting who we are
And nothing else matters

Never opened myself this way
Life is ours, we live it our way
All these words I don't just say
And nothing else matters

Trust I seek and I find in you
Every day for us something new
Open mind for a different view
And nothing else matters

Never cared for what they do
Never cared for what they know
But I know

8. Truly Madly deeply - Savage Garden

A perfect song for a romantic person like me, well sometimes ....

I'll be your dream
I'll be your wish I'll be your fantasy
I'll be your hope I'll be your love
Be everything that you need
I'll love you more with every breath
Truly, madly, deeply do
I will be strong I will be faithful
'cause I'm counting on
A new beginning
A reason for living
A deeper meaning, yeah

9.Hallelujah- Jeff Buckley

Thank you Bhojwani for introducing me to The OC and hence the song. What can I say, it will stay with me forever and ever and ever. Love this song.

Well I heard there was a secret chord

that David played and it pleased the Lord

But you don't really care for music, do you?

Well it goes like this:

The fourth, the fifth,

The minor fall and the major lift

The baffled king composing Hallelujah

Hallelujah, hallelujah, hallelujah, hallelujah...

Your faith was strong but you needed proof

You saw her bathing on the roof

Her beauty and the moonlight overthrew you

She tied you to her kitchen chair

She broke your throne and she cut your hair

And from your lips she drew the Hallelujah

10. Thousand Years 

After all a girl. Even tomboyish girls can be dreamy at times. heart heart

Heart beats fast

Colors and promises

How to be brave

How can I love when I'm afraid

To fall

But watching you stand alone

All of my doubt

Suddenly goes away somehow

One step closer

I have died every day

waiting for you

Darlin' don't be afraid

I have loved you for a

Thousand years

I'll love you for a

Thousand more

Happy Wala New Year!

Yet another new year on its way.

“Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to
 get it right.” 
― Oprah Winfrey

There is something special about the new year celebrations. Isn't it? Even if you are just a stay at home person on 31st night, you still can not avoid the festivities around you and if you happen to work in any of the MNC like I do then you are bound to hear party plans of people way before time. The parties and outings start right before Christmas and stays till the midnight of 31st December. There is something about this night and the moment when everyone shouts 10...9...8...  ...3....2..1.. HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!

The happiness and excitement of entering into a new year somehow brings closure to the year just passed by. We tend to declare to ourselves to let bygones be bygones. Its a new slate altogether. A new year where the mistakes of last year is already forgotten. Yes we did take valuable lessons from them and now we are ready to commit some new and adventurous mistakes in coming year. But who cares about all these serious fundas at the moment of celebration. All we wanna do is groove to the dance numbers with friends, have romantic dinners with lovers or watch salman khan show on tele with family with order out food. No matter how the settings are, mostly we all are happy and exhilarated these times.

The facts mentioned above are actual but there is one more fact and that is about all those millions of people for whom the new year's night is yet another scary and painful night. I wonder how these people feel when they hear party goers shout happy new year at 1 AM on roads. Do they feel happy or blessed for being alive for another day? May be one of their children died of cold or hunger or epidemic but still other 3 are alive so surely they should and must rejoice.

I am talking about all those people who live on roads and if you happen to live in northern part of India then it is close to zero degree on 31st night and for all these people who are with their families, its just another agonizing night where each passing by second is making their blood freeze and they inching towards death. Each year we all hear about these people dying of heart failure due to extreme cold conditions and I am sure each one of us feels bad for them and I also know for fact that many people distribute blankets and food to many people and most of those people would sell their blankets for a bottle of rum and then we whine about our generosity being wasted on non deserving people.

But you know what, true philanthropy does not have to show in extreme ways. As per me and Oprah (I love to throw names :)) a person is either philanthropic or not. He can never develop this as an act of his. My dear friends, lets think of some new ways to help these children who die due to extreme weather conditions, scarcity of food and also those who die by scarcity of education. Ya that's pretty much called death of a child when he/she did not get to use his/ her potential in this life.

We all will be spending at least 5000 on New Years Celebration so lets just drink one less drink or eat simple pizza instead of cheese burst and buy some presents for these little ones. Give anything you feel like and you will see that they will be happy even if you give them somethings small like bread jam to eat or some warm clothes or some chocolates or some toys. They are kids too and surely deserve some play in life.

I would like to share a small incident which took place last week. I was coming back from Food World after purchasing the household things and on red light this sweet little girl came running asking for a rupee. Her family lives there on that red light and they look like nomads who beg for living. Her job is simple, go to each vehicle which stops at signal and ask 3-4 times for money and screen other rickshaws to see a evident giver and run to that vehicle then. She is used to few expressions like being ignored like she is not present and no one can even hear her or being shoed away when she tries to touch the person. But instead I asked her whats your name and to that she behaved just like how any other child would behave. She giggled and said aarti. She did not beg anymore from me and stood there as her act was over and she didn't know about any impromptu act. I gave her a chocolate which I had with me and just then my rickshaw started moving. I turned to see her reaction and she was showing that chocolate to her brother and pointing towards my rickshaw and when I waved at her, she and her brother both waved back joyously. It was so damn easy to bring smile to their faces. On that specific day I had been grumpy whole time due to some failure in my life but look at these kids, living on streets, eating minimal food, wearing slight warm clothes and still you give them one smile and they start smiling back at you.

Someone rightly said that smiles are infectious. So why shouldn't we do this. Don't they deserve a nice dinner on new years eve and a warm sleep. Its not much to do for someone and will surely not change their lives but haven't we heard that "something is better than nothing".

There are many stories and superstitions with the new years eve for example, my friends granny would always ask us to write the new year date as soon as the year starts and thus in hostel when every body was giving new year hug, this friend of mine was writing 01 Jan 2006. LOL. In the recent book which I read, Adultery, its written that as a part of new year celebration, the whole family stands on the sofa and puts feet together at exact moment as a mark of entering the new year. Some even have to lock lips during this moment so well there are all sorts of rituals. So why don't we make one more of such ritual for us which will stay with us till the day we die and will teach our coming generations. Choose your ritual, please lets do something for someone. :)

I will walk out of my house on 31st with food in my hand and I will be very happy if I will see you too there somewhere.

“You have not lived today until you have done something for someone who can never repay you.” 

― John Bunyan

I wish you and your family a very Happy New Year in advance.

Time and Distance!

 Speed = Distance/ Time

We learned this formula in school and have been using it ever since then. Listen I am no mathematics geek to start writing a blog on the formulas. Its not like, hey there is nothing else to do so lets start a blog on algebra. It so happened that like always I was thinking about some random stuff and realized that the concept of distance and time is the thrust of our human relations.

Lets see how. Answer this to yourself that what do we all want at all times from life on emotional front and what is that one thing which is causing major issues in society?  As per me that has to be RELATIONS...

Well, we are all social animals and are desperate for company of other such animals. We want our families, friends, colleagues, neighbors, dogs, cats and even enemies with us. We love the feeling of having someone to care for and having someone who cares for us. Often times we end up giving ourselves completely in relationships with others. There is absolutely nothing we do not try in order to make this work with those special people in our lives. The variation and frequency of relations do differ and we eventually know how much salt is needed in which curry.

But then this same bonding and kinship has caused us worries and complications and pain in the past. If we look closely then we can see that relations are actually a melting pot where we meet different kinds of people and form varied relations in line with the equation of distance and time. Some of these people walk with us for a very long time whereas others leave us on a difficult turn only after a short while. Some are there to mentor us until we find a goal whereas some others are teaching something from a distance. Wouldn't it be easy if we knew from beginning who is there to stay and who is there to walk away? Well, no. That is the whole point of this equation. We need to and ought to learn a lot of diverse and difficult things in life and the method is simple.

According to me, Ms Know-it-all relations are of three types as in the equation is of three types in life.

1) Less Distance and Longer Time (Td):  For as long as we could remember these people were associated with us. They are closer to us and always remain like that. They are here to help us and support us and shout at us when we screw up in life. These are those guarded angels who were assigned a job to take care of us just like how we are taking care of someone else and are guarded angel for them. They are going to walk with us for a very long time.

2) Less Distance and Less Time (dt): Often times we get close to somebody at the first meet. Its like we were meant to meet them and more so often this bond comes to life when we are in utter need of something to hold on to. (I have my personal experience to prove it and I am sure you will have that too). Didn't it happen with you that you met someone and you just knew that you could open up that closed file and get some answers. These walk into our life with a small but important task to help us in some crisis or to provide that much needed support and encouragement. The moment their job is done they leave your sight. Think about it. Even you would have given that encouragement to some one at some point and no matter how well you connected with that person you did leave their sight after a while.

3) Long Distance and Less or More Time (DtT): There are people in life who are there everywhere and from time to time they teach you something about yourself. Imagine that day when you saw your colleague picking up a fight with someone else and you understood that you would not and should not do this yourself. There are countless examples of DtT in our lives. They are everywhere and are helping us grow with each passing second. These are the most important people and mostly the neglected ones.


 Apply the formula in each relation and see what can it teach you.

I feel the equation is pretty simple. May be coz I used to love mathematics as a child but if you look closely then you will be able to see the importance of each one of the person around you in your life. Every one is meant to walk a certain path with us with a simple calculation of the distance which is the level of closeness and the time for which they will be with us and this will definitely leave us more enriched and fulfilled in a longer run. As no one is really good or bad in life. They all are just doing their job.

Imagine if that boyfriend would not have ditched us then how on earth we would have understood we have that much strength in us to move on in life. If that teacher would not have flunked us in exam then how we would have learned so much. If we would have had a perfect family then we would not be grounded now. These are important aspects of life and are not that important anyways. We should just let it all go. I feel we must realize now that the only relationship more important than the one we are living with are the relationship we have with ourselves and hence we must not leave any opportunity in life which get us more closer to out potentials. Have you realized that all those difficult tie-ups brought us face to face with our strengths and weaknesses. We realized that we do hold such great and diverse characteristics also. Yes we were hurt and yes we were dejected but that is all ok now. Isn't it? We don't grumble about that now, do we. Instead we might give that a laugh or two.

So, see possibilities of something enriching in a breakup next time. Remember that the journey is supposed to end here with that person and hence the results of equation should be worked upon now.

Things will get much simpler if we start taking everyone around us as a teacher in disguise. After all, all that should matter is that we all have one person who is the closest as a soul and stays with us forever and that person is no one else but "US".

So start loving yourself more. Spend quality time with yourself and fall in love with your company.Be the craziest person you would ever meet. Have fun with your life as the only person who will sit with you on that sunny beach with a book will be you. Don't be too hard on yourself as remember that whenever someone leaves your side then you have a formula handy to figure out what results you are meant to get with that equation.

from floridabeach rehab website from google image search.

You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.

Buddha

A Friendship undone!

A Friendship undone!

“I would rather walk with a friend in the dark, than alone in the light.” 
― Helen Keller

Don't we just love watching episodes of FRIENDS again and again. This genre has helped the entertainment industry earn millions of bucks in the last decades. From "FRIENDS" to "How I Met Your Mother" to  "Big Bang Theory" to even "2 Broke Girls", people have enjoyed it all. 

These sitcoms have beautifully captured that one relationship which helps us grow into the person we are today. It is that same relation which helps us recover from fall outs of life and also it is the very same one on which we are not dependent, well mostly.

Think about it. If a love relationship is broken then both of you lovers are devastated. For days you will not know how to take care of yourself as you were so consumed into that romantic feeling with someone else and now as that person no more holds ground in your life you feel ruined. But this definitely does not happen with friendship. Two friends grow up together in the same society and are best buddies but as they become adults they move away and fail to stay in touch or that group of friends who was your life seems at a distance after all of you have found partners in life. You do keep in touch for special occasions though like birthdays and anniversaries but even if this contact looses then it definitely does not qualify for those heartbreaking tears which you will have in other "so called important relations" in your life.

Why do we do that? Why don't we give the same amount of respect and importance to friendship today? Why are we so darn busy being busy?

On day do day life we hear people talking about how important their girlfriend or boyfriends (lover) are and how they are ditching that date with a friend to go meet a lover. It is easy and comforting to take this decision as the only job of a friend is to "UNDERSTAND".

People aren't you missing out on life by keeping your friends away? Think about it, there were days when you walked miles with them sharing those secrets you never dared to share with anyone. You nursed them when they had viral and they did the same to you when you were dumped. They were the only ones who told you at all times how talented you are even when you parents could not see that talent through a microscope. They were the ones who would pick up your phone at 3 AM and only after customary 2 shouts they would listen to your heartbreaking stories and will even give you sincere advice in deep sleep.

If you have these kind of friends in your life then you ought to keep that relationship safe. Please start giving them more importance than you already give. Imagine how life would have been without them. You would never have understood how beautiful or talented or amazing person you are if they would never have told you at first place. Imagine how those nights would have been if they were not at the other end of receiver after your life had a major misshaping.

Are there friends in your life who were there at all times and you got pissed with them over something tiny (mostly an expectation)? If yes then pick up that darn phone and call them right away. I am gonna do that now! 

This is one relation where you don't need much sugary words. All you need is a want to make it up to them and only a smiling voice. This is the only relationship which comes with no frills attached. Lets call our nice and boon companions now and feel happy about life.

NOW DON'T BE GRUMPY AND MAKE THAT CALL.

oops I don't remember anything!

A posh hotel room, girl half naked covered in a white quilt with a question mark expression on her face and a guy with breakfast tray in his hands and look that he was smitten by her last night. And the famous question was asked my girl- KAL RAAT KYA HUA?

Girl was too drunk last night to remember what happened between the two of them. She remembers getting drunk but has no memory whatsoever of making out passionately with the young lad. well, this was the famous story of Simran and Raj in DDLJ and nothing actually happened and Raj was only making fun of her only to fall in love with her later BUT there are enormous number of scenes in Bollywood movies where a guy gets drunk and wakes up next morning with a story unknown to him.

My question is : Do people really don't remember a thing after they get drunk? Ok, I can assume that they don't remember dancing on a trashy number in front of public, or speaking louder than their usual decent tones or even falling down on streets but can they really forget something of romantic sorts?

If that is so then I am sure these rapists don't remember a thing as they all are pretty much drunk at all times. And all these men who dance at weddings after they are drunk and pass lewd comments at girls think next morning that they were sober at the wedding.

I guess Bollywood should immediately stop showcasing these scenes which allows a normal decent guy to wear a cloak of invisibility when he is drunk and gives access to an opportunity where he can kiss and forget.

Why worry while alive

" Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle"

-plato

The usual Sunday night and while browsing the usual channels, I chanced upon my all time crush "Mel Gibson" and it was one of his cutest movies "What Women Want". I remember watching this movie as a child and was intrigued with the idea of reading minds of other people (wicked).

In case some one has not seen the movie then brief is here -

Mel Gibson, a typical MCP and at a high post in advertising, hits on a weird road in life when he accidentally start hearing all the thoughts of women in and around him, ranging from gardener, house maid, boss to his own daughter only to find out that he is being disliked by the majority of women. The man then decides to use this for benefit only to understand at end the pain and worries of women and finally he succumb to the goodness and becomes a "good guy".

The movie was funny and all I took from the film was the ability to read minds. However, I just felt that there was another take-away from the film which I completely missed and that was the fact that we all think too much. I am not talking about only we as in "women" here. We all as a species started using the power of brain to our benefit and discovered the word "multitasking" only to get trapped in the thick walls of unnecessary thoughts.

I wonder if we were always like this or was there an apocalypse of calm living. Mostly as per whatever I have read I feel that humans were always in the process of  90% thinking + 5% analyzing + 5% contemplating. We were happy as a species and more and vast knowledge slowly made us scared species. We are always scared and worried and the fears are almost the same -

"what if dad will get to know about my exam results", "what if she/ he will like someone else in school", "I can not live without him/her", "I need good grades", "what if I will loose him/ her","what if I wont get a good job", "what if I won't get hike", "What if my child is in danger", "what if my insurance will not cover my family" in short WHAT THE HELL.

I am sure you would have noticed at one point or other the face of random people walking on streets. Haven't you? Then please do it. It will showcase the perfect today man to you. They all are day dreaming, thinking, worrying and are in short, stressed. But why? Are we really that stressed of a generation?

Aren't we listening each day about some or other celebrity suffering from either Bipolar Disorder, Anxiety attacks or Post traumatic stress disorder.  I am no subject matter expert here but as a human I do feel sad looking at my favorite actor's sufferings. These things are serious and yes traumatic for the person suffering from this and their families too. How can we forget the shocking news of celebrities who have all facilities in the world but still go through sufferings like Selena Gomez or Catherine Zeta Jones. So this basically means money can really not solve STRESS.

Instead of gagging the topic lets go straight to the findings. Do you know according to research a human brain can think limited number of thoughts at a time? To be precise, its normally 4 thoughts at a time and what are we doing then with ourselves?

Ya I know we all need to think and plan about lot of things but are we really planning? Well as per me , NO. We are either brooding about that fight with our partner or sulking about not responding to the boss or ruminating about an ongoing family issue and these all things are sapping us from all the good energy which we can use for some happy and fulfilling activity in that day. Yes ofcourse there are major problems in life but the answer is clear in the quote by shantideva "If you can solve you problem, then what is the need of worrying? If you can not solve it, then what is the use of worrying?"

I learned in my Art of Living course, the magic of being in the moment.  Its a well known fact but we give less admiration to this. We human beings are either living in the past or hopping to the future and are hardly thinking about present. Even if we are thinking about present, its actually more of a future plan like if I complete this file today then I will be able to get my work completed before weekend and then I can easily go out for a movie. This is not being in the present and now you will ask why? well, present moment is "THIS". Right here at this very moment when you are reading the words is your present moment. Are you absorbed completely in the reading or you are already making second plans in head? This moment will never come back and it passes you by in a fraction of seconds, in a snap of your fingers. HOLD THIS THOUGHT HERE AND STAY WITH IT FOR A WHILE. SEE HOW MANY SUCH MOMENTS YOU MISSED UNATTENDED.

In my personal experience if you focus and when your brain shuts the multitasking mode and is in present then in reality the world looks brighter and happier. I am not boasting this. Please go ahead and see it for yourself. Really stop the thinking process and be aware of each moment passing you by. yes, there is it, the calm and beautiful you.

Give it a thought.

If its tough then do it like a meditation for 1 minutes after every 1 hour.

If you still can not get to the understanding of "present moment" then I will give a very simple trick. Listen to Pharrell Williams songs "Happy" and see how you instantly feel at the moment you listen to the lyrics and the music. That is exactly what you need to do without music. Is it difficult? well you deserve to see the brighter life and hence its worth a try.

Happy Living.


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The references were from -
http://www.informationweek.com/humans-can-only-think-about-four-things-at-once-study-says/d/d-id/1063868?

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2329492/Catherine-Zeta-Jones-gets-normality-leaving-rehab-following-month-long-treatment-bipolar-disorder.html

You mights also like reading -
http://www.health.com/health/gallery/0,,20669377_4,00.html

http://loveandlifetoolbox.com/being-in-the-moment-and-why-it-matters/

Dark Pleasure

Relax. Its not some spooky blog!

“I love the silent hour of night,

For blissful dreams may then arise,

Revealing to my charmed sight

What may not bless my waking eyes.” 

― Anne Brontë, Best Poems of the Brontë Sisters

My previous blog post made me wonder why I love watching night scenes in movies... mind it... not scary, bloody and terrifying scenes but rather nice and normal beautiful depiction set in the nightly sky and then I recollected how we all used to love sitting under start gazed sky till midnight on our hostel terrace and how we all continued this practice in Jaipur flat and then Bangalore flat. I think all of our secret and soulful discussions were at that time with a warm cup of coffee. I decided to google about it and found some amazing results ranging from people suffering from various disorders to having dark triad. Well I beg to differ with the results as I specifically don't remember planning and plotting evil things in night but always those times were filled with love, laughter, music and joy and most often imaginations and dreams.

But ofcourse I do agree that some psychopaths use night as tool to hide their triad from others and people often get carried away in taking wrong decisions and thus I made my own assumption over this very fact of being a "night lover". Ok well so to start with you can be a day person like me and be a night lover at the same time. See you don't have to perform love every day right? Keep the night love alive for special occasions.

What is it about night and darkness? Yes it can be depressing as you logically can't see clearly like you can in day light and one depressing thought can travel a long length due to this very fact. But at the same time, isn't night comforting also. It can be one of those times when a silent and sleeping desire gets its wings which is many times not plausible in day time.

Fact is that one strong thought or feeling can stay for a longer time in darkness and if this is a happier thought then whats better than that? There is a very simple reason behind it and that is your guards are down at that time and there is shush around you and so what you would most likely do? Contemplate your feelings or roll with it? I guess the second choice will win the battle.

Arent people more creative and dreamy in darkness and I guess apart from the obvious scientific reason of frontal cortex advising you to shushing the day and other part of brain then taking control to burn the fuel of creativity instead, I feel the common reason would be that "no one is watching" or "no one will disturb the process".

Ya people are creative at such times and often times the weird dreams which will shy away in daylight will comes to life in those moments for all of us. Isn't it right? Well it stays until the logical brain intervene and starts contemplating and tells us how stupid and audacious we were at those moments.

I think media including novels and movies has caught this amazing love of people and for years have depicted beautiful scenes in night. Yes ofcourse there are a major chunk of scenes depicting the usual "act of love" so we would rather no go there. Some of the picturization I just loved are -

Barfi Movie song- is dil ka kya karu 

The song sequence is just amazing. Hush melody, starry night, clean washed hill roads, quiet world and out of no where Ranbeer on horse. Words are of absolute no use at that time and works wonder with the character of being a dumb and deaf person.

go exactly to 3 min

Ek Main Aur Ek Tu - kal chalna shuru tu

Imran understands the word freedom and leaves his house. Yes the absurd thing is he starts driving in Delhi and within night he reached Mumbai. But hey leave that alone. We are here to praise the beauty of scene.

A Walk To Remember

I know I know this is one falls in romantics category but the scenes were pleasing. I guess I have developed some kind of thing for clean atmosphere and here we go again. A refreshing weather and Landan Carter fulfilling Jamies wishes.

Hum Tum Song - Sanso Ko Sanso

What a mesmerizing song with arresting video. Its typical Bollywood dream sequence and still yet again I fall in love with the scenes.

Titanic-legendary scene

Yeah this one is not pitch dark but rather dawn. I guess it falls in the same category somehow. See I know I am wrong but whatever I love this scene so here it is -

Sanjay Leela Bhalsali

I just named the guy to be easy as his films are basically shot in dark with some scenes in daylight. I guess he and I share the same kind of night view love.


Wake Up Sid

How can I leave this one out. My favorite. Be it the first time Aisha and Sid go out for a walk or their time together or aisha's birthday celebration. Hmmm mesmerizing.

Parineeta- Raat Hamari To

Well well a song is completely dedicated to night (raat). I know its melancholy but nice view and song is just amazing.

Notting Hill

The best ever scene I have seen. William saying "Now what in the world in this garden could make the whole ordeal worthwhile? "

Please do add more such scenes in comments as at this moment I can not figure out more but I am sure there are more such scenes.

Images from google
video from youtube
Quote from Goodreads

Gloomy? Watch these!

Over the years I have made a list of my very own comfort movie collection and this so happened that when ever I watched these movies I instantly felt relaxed.

My Best Remedy for Bad/Depressed/Gloomy Mood-

1) Wake Up Sid: Sid, a carefree, dependent and rich young guy who is kicked out of his parents house, finds place to live in his older, intelligent and independent friend, Aisha's small apartment and the film showcases their journey together. A very sweet and much closer to life film. Everyone who has lived alone at some point in life can very well relate to this movie.

2) Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara- 3 old friends decides to go for a much awaited holiday road trip to Spain. The movie has everything - friendship, comedy, hardship, euphoria, romance, breakup, dance, beautiful songs and amazing scenery with life fundas. It reminds you to love your life again. After watching this movie I have made an addition to my bucket list - Trip to Spain :)

3) Eat Pray Love- A memoir of famous writer Elizabeth Gilbert's journey from depressed divorce to happy ever after phase. I personally just love this movie and the additional reasons for me are Javier Bardem, Julia Roberts, interesting Italy and mesmerizing Bali and moreover the freedom of choice which she is able to make in film. I have also loved reading the book but the movie is no less. Instant feel good film.

4) Rang De Basanti- The best Bollywood film according to me. I don't remember even one of such times when I would have felt lethargic after watching this film. It has adrenaline high dose in each scene with best ever comedy timing, strong dialogues,the strongest start cast ever, powerful songs, power packed performance by all starts and just the best movie.

5) Aisha -  A perfect chick flick but with a good feel to it. I know there are people criticizing the movie but I just drool over the nice easy going story. Its a gala time.

6)Kahaani- Vidya balan at her best. Its a thriller movie and you must be wondering why it is in my feel good movie category. Well the movie is shot with brilliance. A picturesque kolkata at its backdrop, visually an amazing movie. I love the night scenes with traffic lights, tram, easy to go appeal. hmmmm. maybe I am looking for peace. And who would not love Vidya's screen presence?

7) Julie and Julia - So tell me one thing? What do you do when you are gloomy? Eat right? So, this movie will satisfy those hunger pangs or may be increase it but will surely help you come out of that zoned out mode. I personally have craving for bruschetta after I watch this movie. yumm

8) No reservation - This again is one of those satisfying movies. Maybe I just love catherine zeta-jones or food or music or love but this is one of those movies I watch most of the time.

9) Sex and the city- I just loveeee Carrie and ofcourse Big and Miranda and Samantha and Charlotte. This has to be in my list as I practically don't remember the times I have seen the film. It has it all - the lose, win, love, lust, friends, city, dreams, freedom aahhhh how much more should I write to convince you all now. Just go and watch it.

10) Sex and the city 2- No more words. Just go an indulge.

Well this blog was no brainier. Right? All the movies I have loved watching when have had sore throat, under weather or sad or bored or in any other weirder mood mostly because they all have that euphoric feeling of happiness. You loose something but with struggle you get that and more back. And mostly these things are not more than life and are simple things which you and I crave for each day. Well I hope you will enjoy these too.

Destiny: A loaded word

What is Destiny?


A friend recently posted a whats app status "The beauty is in Walking... we are betrayed by Destination".  An extremely true statement. Isnt't it?

For as far as I can remember, all that we were told and taught was how to get good grades so that we can get admission in good college so that we can get a high paying job so that we can get good marriage proposals so that we can get settled with 2 kids, partner for life, house loan, retirement plan, a car (better than neighbors) and family holidays. So, everything was planned till the end and I think that is why we loose fun in all this as we know what is leading to what. For example, if you end up getting bad scores then you will end up in average college and then you will end up in basic salary and then you will slog your ass to earn more so that you can manage to get a decent life partner. This is mostly true for our male friends as for females the equation is pretty simple, "(good looks + good marriage proposal) AND (good bank balance + good marriage proposal)  "

I hope I am not being cynical here. I guess these things are important in life... wait a minute... REALLY?

What is the fun in walking a path which is much likely known to you. Even then, there will be lots and lots of issues, problems and heartbreaks so does it not make sense to just keep walking and not thinking about the end result?

I know its not that easy. We are brought up with a knowledge of outcome as we are result oriented people. But still, at some point or other, we might feel that the beauty is in not knowing the answers, in walking the mystical path, in finding a new twist and turns along the way and most people do get to this crossroad after a eventful soul searching episode in life.

What is our destiny?

Its nothing but the outcome of all the actions we end up taking in life. Its pretty simple. It really is not something pre defined or decided by higher powers. As I am sure God didnt want people to live in misery and with pain as I am sure God is not that of a sadist. So, as per my personal belief, the only truth in this word destiny is "its bullshit". Everyone is a loved child of the higher powers and all of us are made up of same atoms and cells. Yes I do agree that circumstances are always different for everyone but the end result is the thing which we create our self and is certainly not something destined.

Think about it, if you will lie on bed crying for the sorrows and will leave it all on destiny then the only destiny you will have is back sores. ROFL.

So lets just live this day to the fullest,do the things which brings smile on someone's face, do something you love to do with passion, keep burning that flame of desire in you.

Go Get Out and LIVE!

Meera chapter 10

Sunday morning# Alarm snooze @ 7 AM# Eyes wide open # Happy smile on face#

This was a new avatar of Meera. After leaving Chirag in Lucknow, she never felt at peace with herself. Things were changing now. She had an admirer and she could say that because in the last one week she had multiple conversations with Sid. Even then one part of her brain kept saying please go slow as those things which happens so quick are usually a disaster.

But this time it was different. She was with a mature man, Sid was almost 33 years old and was well educated from a renowned university. He used to work as a manager at his previous firm from where he decided to quit to start his business. He was smart, decent , knowledgeable and hardworking = all the things Meera wanted in her guy.

She jumped out of bed in a hurry and realized its only 7 and she is not meeting him until mid day so there was a hell lot of time to start getting ready. But time was her enemy as it moved as slow as it could and she did not want to ping him as she didn't want to express her desperation to him. After several cups of coffee and a face pack later, she decided to start getting ready. After an hour while checking herself in mirror she ticked a mental checklist, Hair- well straightened, Makeup- Subtle, Dress- nice jeans and blue blouse which she brought from Zara for this day, it was made up of crochet kind of stitch and was slightly see through, Shoes- her favorite peep toes, so here she was looking subtle and sexy at the same time.

Within an hour with all the prep she was ready for the big DATE. Only problem was she didn't know if this really was a date.

When she reached the pre-decided coffee-shop in Khan Market Sid was already there. It was quite evident from his gesture that he was pleased to see her. They both hugged in a slight awkward way.

Sid while complementing Meera: You are looking very nice.
Meera thanked him and returned the favor.

The waiter came too quick and placed two giant menu cards in front of them which  had a funny shape of Wine Bottle and served them their drinks. It seemed Sid had pre ordered two fruit crushes for both of them.

Meera: Hmmm so finally we meet.
Sid: Yup. I cant say am not excited coz I am.

Meera: (smiling) I cant say I am not impressed by your manners coz I am.
Sid: oh cmon. These are just small things but ya I would like to do something better for you like finding a decent job.
Meera: So did you find one for me?
Sid: Yes mam. I have a friend and there are openings in his organization. I have given him your number and you will get a call soon. (Sid said proudly)
Meera : Oh wow. Thats great. So now I am really impressed.
Sid: Just take me out for a coffee once you get the job (winked)

Waiter came to take orders and Sid leaned towards Meera and said "Since this is the first time we are together why don't you order? " and Meera thought to herself its really is a date.

She ordered some red pasta, chicken ravioli and mushroom with black beans and left the decision of wine on Sid.

It seemed like a complete shift of character in her. Only few months earlier she was all depressed and bruised from a relationship and today her face was stretched the whole time into a smile. She liked the feeling of sitting with a man who looks at her while eating rather than checking out the girls at next table and who talks to waiter in a polite way instead of treating him like a servant.

Sid waved his hand in front of her face, Hello, what happened? Where are you lost? Am I too bad of a company?

Oh not at all. I was just thinking of something, she replied and decided to pay attention here rather than mentally analyzing things. And just then Sid said, "so what do you like to do next?"  and she replied,"I dont know. Anything is fine with me". "So lets go for a movie if you like or may be we can go to Kingdom of dreams or perhaps for a long drive if you like", he offered.

Ummmm, I think movie would be OK for today as I have to go little early and kingdom of dreams is fun only at night and long drive would not be that fun too in this heat, she said.

So they decided to go for a movie "Queen". The theater was quite far for a road trip and thus they had more time to chat in car. It was unbelievable for her that a man can be so intellectual and sensitive at the same time. Their talk again went to politics and system.

Sid: By cleaning roads, this new party will not be able to develop our country. I know cleaning is required but on a list of priorities they should have new industrial reforms and infrastructural developments and forming new policies to increase the gdp.

I completely agree with you Sid but you are deviating from the topic. Government will make policies but when at grass root level there is corruption then how can they ensure that all the implemented policies are taking effect? she said while defending her party.

Oh dear Meera, just give me a month and I will change your views. I promise you that I will make you a pro for my party and they both laughed about it and headed for movie.

While watching the scene when actor in the movie leave actress a day before wedding Meera realized this is the wrong movie she has chosen to watch with him as she was unable to control her emotions at that time. She was  just like the actress some time back. The only difference was she left him but other than that life was pretty much the same. She took an auto with all her bags while he was asleep in middle of night and went to airport without realizing that her eyes were full tears.  A tear dropped while thinking of that night and watching the actress cry. She wiped it quickly but it was too late and Sid had already seen it.

The later part of movie was heroic and they both enjoyed every bit of it. In parking lot, Sid asked her that why she cried and she felt like this is the right time to tell him about her past but somehow she could not tell him and she just gave a shy smile to is question.

He dropped her home and they both hugged nicely this time. He planted a kiss on her cheek and wished her goodnight.

Meera chapter 9

She reached home and all she could think of was how nice Sid was and that she can still be hopeful to meet someone nice like him after the horrified incident in her past where she was abused and tortured to death. "God, I don't want to think about chirag now. I don't even want to remember his name", she told herself.

She checked her phone at least 100 times to see if he pinged her on whatsapp or chaton or did he send her a friends request on Facebook. She decided not to send request first or call first or message first as that has always led her in wrong paths before. She decided to be patient and wait for him to show that he is also interested like she is. The wait was over when she came back from office the next day and decided to login to her Gmail account and here it was - an email from Sid. Shit why didn't I check my Gmail account, she thought.

It read -

Hi, just got up from a long sleep after reaching home.I was thinking about our chat yesterday and now I am wondering if that's why I got lot of dreams last night. But it should wear off soon.  I am unable to find you on Facebook so please send me your link and also I am not on whats app but will download and let you know - not sure if I will stick there though :)

She read over and over again these 5 lines and the first thing she did was to send him a friends request. Ofcourse she had already found him on Facebook but was only being patient. Now she could not be more patient. And voila, he was online so instant approval and they started chatting instantly.

Meera: Hi, glad to see your mail. I hardly login to this id but I am glad I did today.

Sid: Thank you for adding me on Facebook, Why your id was not searchable?

Meera: I have privacy settings thats why. So how are you?

Sid: I am fine. My dog is behaving weird, he is not recognizing me at all.

Meera: Give him sometime. He must have missed you a lot when you were not there and therefore may be throwing tantrums.

Sid: ya you are right. But I am so glad, I am finally on my bed. I just don't get sleep anywhere else.

Meera: Oh, I thought you didn't sleep nicely last night due to dreams.(she hoped silently that he meant her when he wrote that line)

Sid: Ya I know its strange. Usually I dont get that many dreams but dont know how this happened.

At night around 7:45, Sid called on her cell phone. 

Hi.

Hi.

Sid:So whatsup?

Meera: Nothing. I just finished writing my blog.

Sid: I guess I asked you to send me your blog address. 

Meera: Ya... actually its private, I mean except for some close friends, no body knows about that address. I want the blog to be popular in real way.

Sid: Well, ok, But I still want to read it.

Meera: hmmm, ok give me some days. I will send you the link. So what are you up to?

Sid: Nothing. Just planning to go for a movie.

Meera: Which one?

Sid: Highway. Have you seen it.

Meera: No. I will watch it in some days with a friend(She had no plans of watching and she hoped he would ask her to accompany him for the movie).

Sid: Shoot. I would have asked you to come along but these tickets were booked for some time and now I kind of have to go.

Meera: Ok, have fun. talk to you later then I guess. Even I have to complete this blog now.

Sid: Bye Meera. But ping me once you are free.

After one hour, when she was done with he dinner and was enjoying her green tea, she saw a text from Sid.

Sid: someone was supposed to ping me. :(

she replied,  someone is busy watching a movie. :^

Sid: Relax. Its just a movie. Ping me any time. I will reply. :)

She thought to herself, its going way too fast. Either he is just a flirt or I am misunderstanding everything and she replied, "Hmm that's cool. But you enjoy the movie. Will talk to you later."

Sid: You ditcher. :^

This became a daily ritual. He would call at 7:30 PM and that is the time when she would be returning from her jogging. They would talk for sometime. Since he was working at a start up company, he did not have time limitations with him. He would call as and when he is free and since she was also only working with her NGO those days, she used to enjoy those time out with him.

On that Sunday night, he called at 9 PM and they spoke till 2 AM in the morning. He was an intellectual boy and very engrossed in politics. She on the other hand kept all knowledge of the happenings but her heart for more into developing the society so which made their talks even more interesting. A dedicated government would have got ample amount of ideas if they would have tapped their conversations. 

Finally next weekend, they both decided to meet at a coffee house and he informed her about a job opportunity in one of his friends organization. 

Their meeting was all Meera could think that whole week. She decided everything- from attire to hairdo, even conversed with him in mind for several hours..

Oprah in Me

We all have seen numerous episodes of the famous Oprah Winfrey talk show but I gotta say that I always wanted to hear what she is thinking more than the participant's and my wish got fulfilled today when I watched Oprah being interviewed at Stanford Graduate School of Business. 

What can I say. I am more in love with her and mostly more in love with myself. Well, if you are thinking what the hell! she is again self praising then you have to watch the show. Believe you me, you have to.

I was in tears today after a long time. These sort of tears first came in presence in my life when I finished reading "The Alchemist". Its not really the sobbing kind of tears but more like when you know that someone who lives miles away and has never met you has understood something deeper about you and mostly when you have that feeling -- You know that something has woken up or say shaken up-- something was sleeping for sometime is now out there naked in front of you. In easy words- when you have a self realization about YOU.

We know this fact and I truly believe this that pain and sorrows and wrong decisions are all the most powerful and great things in life. When we suffer we actually open doors to self realization and to the understanding of a better decision. Imagine if we simply learn to adjust to the bad circumstances and situations and live with them thinking its destiny then we might take a very long time to understand the purpose, one can call it "The Calling" or in totality "the knowledge of real we". Or may be in right terms - The process of self realization.

Elizabeth Gilbert rightly says- Ruin is a gift. Ruin is the road to transformation.

But does that understanding comes easily to all of us? Well not to me. I too like most people would sit and cry on the sorrows for more than deserved time. However, I personally always know, deep down, that its time - to move on. I always know, that some person and I can just never be friends and this is not because I feel someone is not good enough for me, its just that, I know that at this moment, we are at different places.

Oprah also spoke about the SELF LOVE. I have a personal experience with this and the story goes like - Recently during a training session, we were asked to rate different aspect in our life from number 1- 10 whereas 1 being the most important thing and 10 being the least important thing. The things included everything from friends, family, partner, children, self, job, etc etc. I instantly, without thinking for even a second placed myself at number 1 and passion/ dream at number 2(even if I don't have clarity on that as of today) and then friend and family. I was surprised to see that me and one more guy were the only two people who rated ourselves at number 1 and it really got me thinking that am I self consumed and are all these other people really that selfless?

Well my understanding of the thought is - arent we suppose to fill our cup first before being able to offer the other person something. Oprah today solved my misery. She spoke the same things what I always thought that in life until and unless you are happy with yourself you can  never spread happiness around. Think deeply about this and you also might think the same.
Also, one more thing which stuck and will stay with me forever is, when she said that people often ask this question to themselves-what would you say to your younger self-  Oprah says just RELAX.. everything will be fine. its gonna be ok. The Que to being eloquent with the truth is when you are drifting off-course you know that this is it and you need to shift gears , move in another direction. May be again you will hit a wall but then again you know that you need to turn further more and thus eventually you will come across the path which you are destined for. Sooner or later, one will get there.

She also said- Think what is the next right move and then next move and so on rather then thinking the whole life at once. Further she added, know that your life is not defined by what someone tells you.

So here it goes, the truth revelation once again, you are the master of your destiny. Why live small when you are here for living it large. Why fear criticism when at end you are just gonna be fine.

Meera chapter 8

2 Months back.

Meera was travelling back from Jaipur after meeting her mother from Shatabdi express that is when she found her seat next to a very handsome man. The train journey is for almost 5 hours from Jaipur to Delhi and hence she felt relieved that she does not have to spend that time chatting with an aunty like she did the last time when all that aunty wanted to talk about was how girls of this generation are proving to be extremely bad daughter in laws and how she was the perfect one who always obeyed her mom in law in her younger times.

While trying to adjust a heavy suitcase on the compartment above their seats she almost lost the balance and trembled with the bag. She felt immensely ashamed at herself for being clumsy in front of a dude. On the other hand, he offered his big and strong hands to help her with the luggage. "Thank you" she said to offer her nice gesture for the help provided by gentleman. "That's all right." he spoke in a very manly voice. "Hi, I am Siddharth. pause. How bout you? " he continued. Not only was he good looking, he had a very hot voice too which suited his tall, dark and handsome personality.

"Hi, I am Meera. ", she replied in a calm and happy voice and hoped that the journey of 5 hours would end enjoyable.

"Wow, what a beautiful name. I guess, I have heard it for the first time in real life. I mean I have heard the name before but only in movies and mythological stories but never in real life." he said excitedly.

"Ya, my grandfather kept my name. But it caused quite a stir in family at that time.", she replied.

"Stir? Why?" He was inquisitive.

"Well, if you know about the mythology then the name Meera is associated with sacrifice, loneliness etc and my mother feared that I will end up sacrificing my life for someone I love and will not get the usual happy married life", she told genuinely.

"That's just rubbish. Our society has lot of stigma. I am sure name has nothing to do with all those things in life." he further asked, "so what do you do?"

"Nothing actually. I am searching for a job in Delhi. I just moved in the city couple of months back"

"Oh,well I can surely help you with job. I have many friends in Delhi. Send me your resume and I should be able to help you."

"That's great. Thank you. So what do you do Siddharth?"

"You can call me Sid. I have a startup company and I work with a partner. Prior to that I used to work with reggolb corporation. I am not sure if you have heard of them"

"Ya I have heard of them. They are into event management right? "

"Oh yes."

Their conversation was interrupted when the Shatabdi waiter came to offer them breakfast which included some pasta, bread butter jam, eggs and coffee.

"Hmm I like their breakfast.", he said and to that Meera replied only with an Me too smile.

Through rest of the journey, they spoke about everything from their favorite movies, favorite stars, favorite hobbies to bad travelling experiences. She did not forget to include the aunty in conversation she had met last time. They knew that people seated near by are listening to their conversations. From time to time they were realizing the fact that many people are all ears to their talk but they did not care at that time.

By the end of 5 hours, they knew a lot about each other and there were many similarities like they both were avid fans of offbeat Indian cinema with their favorites ranging from water to rang de basanti to Mr and Mrs Iyer. And to the fact that they both were sensitive towards current and crying issues, she being all for the underprivileged children and he was aggressive towards the corrupt and lethargic politics. They exchanged phone numbers and Sid promised to help Meera in finding a job.

That was a perfect journey and there was that moment when they both felt the need to say bye with a hug but it would have been tat bit too much so they both shook hands and promised to keep in touch but at that time all she thought of was the happy time she spent and that how much she adored her new friend and she had no idea that this little meeting could tremble her life way too much then she trembled in train. But at that time he was straightaway to the bucket where she would keep guys who had chance of turning into some one special.

Bangalore: My favorite city : reasons

5 reasons why Bangalore is my favorite city.

People keep asking me why I like Bangalore so much and even I have been dwelling over this for some time now. Since now I live in Delhi and people there are objective and they need reasons as to why a Delhite would choose Bangalore.
I have to admit that I have started to like Delhi also now(yes ofcourse I am saying this to please my friends in Delhi... BHOLA specially for you) but ya I still choose Bangalore as my favorite city and will recommend to everyone who is fun loving and light hearted.
Ok so here I am trying to be as objective as I can and the reason does not include the default factors like my Bangalore friends since they are my friends because of my hard work (hey guys I am only saying this to gain some brownie points. Don't worry, I know we are friends due to your efforts but shhhhhh)

1) The awesome weather.
 I still remember the first time I came to Bangalore in year 2006 and it used to drizzle every second. Since then the weather has changed a lot and I hear people complaining about global warming and of Bangalore becoming hotter. But guys its still much much better than most of Indian cities. No humidity, mostly breezy, cloudy and you feel that slight cold most of the times. I love it.

2) Mixed culture and variety of food.
You have to give this one to Bangalore. Like most metropolitan, Bangalore as a city is with mixed culture including south Indian and western culture. You would find the fresh and strong aroma of filter coffee and sight of set dosas from udupi garden and MTR and on the other hand you can see a range of western eateries from California burrito, hunan and smoke house deli. Yes ofcourse the prize range of these places wary but then you have great number of options available from south Indian cuisine to Mexican to Chinese to Italian to American. You name it and you get it. And they all taste amazing and friendly to your pocket and the best part is, they are spread all over the city so you don't really have to go to just one place far away to enjoy a cuisine.

3) The enormous number of Cafes/clubs.
This is actually top on my list, it comes even before the weather but may be not for every one so I am listing it on number 3. Bangalore as a city is a cafe culture city. There are countless numbers of cafes spread all over the city including many CCD's and cafes like mateo, Dyu Art cafe to Toit, Jcubez and Arbour brewing company. The even best part about these cafes- you can sit there for hours without being harassed by staff to order more and more. I have had days when I sat in cafes for 5-6 hours writing or reading with only one cup of coffee. And yes when the place is so comfortable you will tend to order more and enjoy their different coffee blends. And they say it right - A lot can happen over coffee.

3 Monkeys

Matteo

The Hole In The Wall Cafe

Toit

4) Safe city for women.
This is one place where I don't have to think twice before wearing an outfit. I can travel confidently through buses also without getting remarks from people. I have lived in Delhi throughout my schooling and hence I am not used to being left unnoticed by crowd (ROFL). Here, I have been on bus at 10 PM wearing my normal attire of jeans and top and have been invisible for the crowd whereas in my city (Delhi) even that has left me feeling naked at times. I feel there is one solid reason for this and that being the majority of crowd in the city is educated and working class and hence these people mind their own business. So Bangalore High Five for this.

5) Transport options.
The bus service in Bangalore is second to none. They have low floor buses for quite some time now and these started way before it started in capital. The buses are still in good condition, they don't make that scary noise that its gonna blast any minute plus it covers major part of cities with commendable service.  Now the metro has also started and that too is shaping up well.

couple of high points I personally saw-
* I was helped by police guys when I was not getting auto at 9 PM from Brigade road. This inspector saw me waiting and without saying a word  he came where I was standing and stopped an auto for me.The auto guy had to take me. Thank you SIR.
* At times you do find certain bad elements who have traveled from shady cities to Bangalore and trying to undress girl in their eyes. On one such day, I happen to saw this weird guy in bus at night time and to my surprise, the conductor saw him too and yelled at this man in front of the bus and asked him to go the rear end of the bus where all the men are seated mostly. Thank you SIR. I must say this neverrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr took place in any other city where I have been.
* At Bangalore city railway station. I was there to receive someone and needed platform ticket from the vending machine and on that particular day there were some trains delayed and thus there was unimaginable crowd. I just could not have reached the vending machine without being sandwiched and hence a railway inspector saw me and once again he went through the crowd and got me a ticket. Thank you sooooo much SIR.
* AT CCD Kormangla which is in front of Forum mall. I was seated with a friend for some time and that was weekend and thus cafe was full with customers. While leaving, my friend forgot his brand new RayBan aviators and we only realized this after couple of hours. If we were in any other city we would have lost hope but this was Bangalore and hence we got it back when we went there after 4 hours. It was safe with the cafe guys and they had also kept a board saying "We have you RayBan. Please collect it from the staff". My friend was very happy that day and he goes to the same CCD even now.